Do It Yourself Divorce | After Divorce Life Is Different
Suppose you and your spouse have decided that a divorce is necessary. In that case, it’s tempting to want it over with as quickly as possible. Long, drawn-out divorce settlements aren’t fun for anyone, and sometimes they can take months or even years. It’s important to remember that you can’t rush through a divorce because you’ll be making crucial life-altering decisions about your future. When you’re in the thick of the process, you can easily get bogged down in the minutia of everyday divorce proceedings, which can lead you to make decisions that aren’t necessarily best for you, your spouse, or your children.
One of the most significant decisions you will need to make is whether you want to proceed with a contested divorce or an uncontested divorce. This decision will substantially impact the amount of time it takes to finish the divorce, how much it costs, and how much you leave after you have split.
If you and your spouse have decided that a contested divorce is the way to go, you can begin by filing for divorce. One of the things you will have to agree upon is who gets what. You need to get this settled in writing to resolve any disputes in a court of law, not a bedroom. Also, make sure that you and your spouse have decided how you’ll be dividing your property and any savings. This should include determining how your children will be affected and whether or not they will continue to receive all of your joint monies, or whether they will have any of their own funds kept for themselves. In the future, if there are any additional children, you will have to agree on how they will be affected and whether they will continue to receive any monies, or whether some funds will be given to you alone.
An uncontested divorce will involve that you two agree that you will each keep your separate lives separate and distinct. You have to agree that there will be no joint monies. You need to decide on custody arrangements and visitation rights. There will be no stringent need to hire attorneys in an uncontested divorce and no need to go to court. This is, by far, one of the best ways to speed up divorce because there will be no arguing over petty issues. All issues will be agreed upon, and no litigation will take place. Your spouse’s desires will be respected, and you will be able to keep your separate lives separate. This is an ideal solution for those who want to get a divorce quickly and without stress.
If you want to go through the court litigation process, you need to be extremely sure that you two agree on all aspects of your divorce. You need to understand that the court will only help you if you are sure that you are decidedly both on board with the decision. The worst thing that can happen is to be served divorce papers, and the court will not give you any help or advice (more in this article). It is the attorney who will provide you with support and advice on your case, and that is the one you should hire. So don’t take chances and hire an attorney with who you are not entirely sure you will be going. If you are going to hire an attorney, do it before you sign the papers.
As I said, this is an excellent option to use when you want to get a divorce, but you don’t want to spend a lot of money on attorneys or to go to court. You will need to have two people agree on the divorce. If you are doing an uncontested divorce, you just need to decide that you will be keeping your separate lives separate and apart. You don’t have to go to court immediately if you can agree on all issues.
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You will have to talk to your spouse about the divorce and the possibility of changes to your finances and visitation rights. It’s best to talk to each other about the divorce because if you try to do it alone, you will have a more challenging time, but it’s better to do it together than to go to court.
It’s not really a good idea to involve your friends and family members either. I know when you’re in love, it’s so wonderful, but it’s also easy to get carried away and then take your spouse for granted, and then they won’t want to see you anymore. It’s not a good idea to put that strain on your spouse and put them into thinking that they don’t want to see you because you love them. After all, that won’t help them. You should try to keep it as simple as you can, but you should make sure that they know that the divorce is not because they did something wrong but because you want a different lifestyle.
Disclaimer. Please, consult a lawyer as these words do not represent legal advice. I am not a law person and those words and similar are from online articles I have read myself.
I repeat, seek specialized legal counsel.